Posted by Honore on June 30, 2007, at 9:35:38
In reply to Re: Struggling with the concept of Need, posted by DAisym on June 30, 2007, at 1:29:12
Daisy, I'm sad that your T couldn't find the way to reconnect this time.
It's awful when someone disappoints you-- or you disappoint yourself-- by getting torn away from a connection . and by feeling some new, disruptive hurt. Reexperiencing that moment when you need something desperately from someone important, and they really aren't there. is awful-- no matter how many time you've been through it and repaired it in the past.
You will reconnect, though. This will just be one of those places in the spiral where you rush into a bad turn, and the past comes flooding back, and you lose the trust you've built up. But it's still there. You'll find it again.
I was just thinking that maybe you're the one to write the handbook on need-- as you work on it and get to a better place. I think it would probably be a hugely valuable book that would do a lot of people a lot of good.
I'm glad you came to the chat, too-- even if you couldn't talk. And I'd love to see you in NY someday even if this visit isn't at a good time.
Honore
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