Posted by Honore on September 6, 2007, at 17:50:02
In reply to Re: Something about the day after therapy.... » JoniS, posted by RealMe on September 6, 2007, at 17:29:19
There is another potential resolution to the sense of wanting to reconnect, which I've found, anyway. That's over time, that I feel connected, so I don't need to reconnect in a material, literal way. I do feel special to my T, and that's part of it-- but it's not enough. It's much more or deeper than feeling "special" which often can just be comforting-- but never lasts either-- I find.
It's this sense that he's still there, which only developed after a long long time (and other things-- including meds and our relationship changing and become more sure).
I totally needed to reconnect-- often right after I left, or at least later in the day-- and it was hard the next day-- so I had a rather extreme version of what you have. I really could hardly stand it.
But don't feel sad or lousy about your email (I know my saying that won't help, because I've been there, and I guess you have to let the feeling pass over you)-- it's really okay. And you are okay-- and I think you'll feel more okay over time. (Okay being a kind of state that sounds so-so, but is really important on a day to day basis.)
The waiting for that, though, can be so hard.
Honore
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