Posted by twinleaf on September 8, 2007, at 19:34:44
In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting', posted by muffled on September 8, 2007, at 19:08:59
Such good questions- and not too easy to answer! I had several of those moments- maybe three or four only, when I least expected it, with my previous T., and it's happened only twice with the new one.
I think it has a LOT to do with allowing younger, damaged parts to trust and feel close, as Daisy explained so well. It really does result in increased confidence and well-being in daily life. If it's not happening for you, ever, maybe you could enlist your T- tell her you would like to have those experiences, no matter how scared you may be. I think both Daisy's therapist and mine work very hard to tune into the younger, terrified parts of us and give us the best chance for a "moment".As to it translating into daily life, I think it definitely does make relationships fuller, better, and less fearful. But in the kind of therapy we are talking about, it seems to me that it is the pain-filled younger parts which are connecting up to the therapist. There is an intensity about it that happens only rarely in adult life- and it doesn't happen that often in therapy either. It's so wonderful when it does. though. Do you really feel it couldn't happen for you? I do hope you can find a way for it to happen- you do need a T. who understands the importance of it, and will work with you towards allowing it to happen. Hope it does!
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