Posted by twinleaf on September 9, 2007, at 1:03:37
In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting', posted by Dinah on September 9, 2007, at 0:26:18
You are certainly describing something very similiar. The only difference seems to be that you are describing a wonderful degree of connnectedness which you are able to find every time you see him, whereas we were (I think) describing kind of rare and unusual moments when traumatized younger, non-verbal aspects of ourselves make it into the therapy space and are able to feel known by the therapist. For me, at least, these moments (about six in four years, only) involve huge amounts of fear, longing, tears, followed by a joyful and peaceful being together, I never forget them, and I feel better- a permanent sort of better- after they are over. I never know when one of these moments will happen, but I can see that both I and my T. are constantly working towards them, and preparing the ground so that they can happen. For me, they are non-verbal- and then talked about after they occur.
Would it be accurate to say that these moments are kind of rare because they involve split-off, early parts of ourselves becoming able to have a relationship with our therapists, while you are talking about a more main, principal part of you being able to feel connected? It's hard to say, though, as the way you describe how you feel when you try to have that connecton does sound as though a quite young part of you is there. Another question to ask: do you have powerful moments of feeling known by him in a new way?
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