Posted by DAisym on September 8, 2007, at 20:11:56
In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting', posted by twinleaf on September 8, 2007, at 16:01:43
I wonder if face-to-face brings on more of these moments or if it is "just" the connection that happens, whether you are laying down or not. Sometimes I feel like I'm searching his face for the slightest hesitation or deception, particularly when he is telling me it wasn't my fault. He always holds my gaze in these moments and I'm always aware that he is.
I guess what I mean by putting the moment into words is talking about just this, like we are now. Not only what was felt or said, but the fact that it was indeed a moment. For both of us. Daniel Stern would argue that it diminishes it to call it out as such. I think I disagree.
The other thing that I'm thinking is that most of these moments are not "ah ha" moments. They are deep feeling moments of being known - and sometimes there is insight. But usually, for me at least, there is relief. And then there is healing.
I'm glad you are experiencing these moments with your new therapist. And as much as we might wish it, I don't think they come often nor can they be forced. Which is why they are so special.
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