Posted by caraher on September 14, 2007, at 12:03:12
In reply to Re: cant stop crying today » wishingstar, posted by Dory on September 14, 2007, at 7:58:20
What Dory said. At least 99% of the problem is that he's unable right now to let go of enough of his past to devote to you the attention and commitment you need and deserve.
I certainly understand how you tend to interpret this as evidence of personal inadequacy, but it really should not be taken that way. This is not about how pretty or interesting you are... it's his commitment problems coupled with his low-level chronic insensitivity. You've certainly remarked on his intermittent cluelessness before you went from friends to a "couple" this year - that's been a fairly stable feature of his behavior and is completely independent of any factors that make you attractive to him. Consider the source!
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