Posted by RealMe on September 15, 2007, at 17:41:38
In reply to How do we really forgive ourselves? **csa trigger*, posted by antigua3 on September 15, 2007, at 15:03:10
antigua
Here is the problem as I see it. I was not abused by my father but by others in my life as a child. But here I have been doing evaluations with sex offenders and also used to work with them in treatment. This is how I see it. No one is all good or all bad; in fact we are all just people with good points and bad points, good behaviors and bad behaviors, etc. So, is it confusing about your father? Of course. He was not all bad in his behavior. There were good things about him even then too. I don't claim to know the answer, but I would hope he has at least apologized for his behavior. There is no excuse, but there were probably things going on in his life that contributed to what happened to you. Note I say things going on in HIS life. It had nothing to do with you as a child/person. It might be worthwhile to talk to someone who works with sex offenders, and in particular incest perpetrators. It might help, but then again it might not. I don't know you really, and so I can't say.
RealMe
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