Posted by Dinah on June 3, 2008, at 22:32:18
In reply to Re: I don't have to be semipsychic for this one, posted by Lucie Lu on June 3, 2008, at 20:06:22
He really didn't like that term. He insisted he wasn't angry, but I could feel him kind of coiling back from the word "coy". He said he'd keep all that I said in mind next time he thought "I don't know how much I should tell her." I hope he never says it aloud again though. It wasn't even really in context. He misunderstood what I was trying to say I guess.
Yes, it is unique. By virtue of sheer longevity he makes sure to tell me. :)
I can't imagine a termination that would leave me feeling that it was in any way mutually agreeable. He does know, I suppose, that as soon as he tells me he will be leaving, or terminating me, therapy will be over. So he isn't likely to choose to give me much lead time, because he knows that there will be no gradual termination.
For me the act of stating that I will be terminated for whatever reason is termination at once. How could I talk to him knowing that he has abandoned me? How could I discuss that abandonment with the abandoner?
I've told him that before, and he does know it.
I suggest to others that they take advantage of the time to do a "good" termination. I admire those who can. I can't.
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