Posted by Dinah on June 5, 2008, at 10:39:55
In reply to Re: I don't have to be semipsychic for this one, posted by sassyfrancesca on June 4, 2008, at 15:13:19
This is what I say!!
If he dangles bait in front of me, he shouldn't complain if I bite.
Particularly this time there was absolutely no point to the comment. I hadn't asked what was going on, and it wasn't even in my mind. I was just trying to get him to realize that he wasn't present with me at that moment, and that he needed to shift his focus.
What I really wanted to do was to kneel by his feet, take his hands, and ask him to look at me and to be present in this moment. To tell him that his troubles would still be there later, but *in this moment* he was safe, and that in this moment he needed to be present.
But I knew that was inappropriate so I just checked out. It helps some that he followed up and asked me to return.
It's not that I don't care about what's happening with him. Of course I do. But he doesn't want my caring or concern.
poster:Dinah
thread:832701
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