Posted by Daisym on July 31, 2008, at 18:34:41
In reply to Re: Leaving on a bad note, posted by wishingstar on July 31, 2008, at 16:57:04
I don't think it is too much to expect that he would have reacted differently but I can sort of imagine the following thoughts running through his head -- "wow - that was brave of her, I wonder what made her tell me, out loud, right now? But gee, we only have a few minutes left - and I'm leaving for two weeks. So maybe we shouldn't open up all these feelings for me when I'm not going to be here...I'll acknowledge the risk and see where that goes." Telling him how it felt to you will be another risk, but an important one. Something to think about while he is gone is why is it so hard to admit missing someone? What happens if you care about someone and they know it?
I'm really surprised at any therapist, in this day and age, that doesn't get that clients worry when they go on vacation. You'd have to almost being living under a professional rock to not have heard about attachment, transition, etc. Even if you don't directly deal with these things in your type of therapy, it is still important to acknowledge the feelings in the room. I know lots of therapist don't want to "gratify" the client, etc. I believe that is short sighted.
I hope the next two weeks go well for you. Keep posting!
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