Posted by healing928 on July 31, 2008, at 19:17:19
In reply to Re: Leaving on a bad note » healing928, posted by Suedehead on July 31, 2008, at 15:11:57
Well I haven't been seeing him regularly all summer due to his personal problems, but the week before his vacation, i came in with a problem with a friend who is like family. Anyway, I felt he wasn't handling it correctly. But now I see it was something I didn't want to hear. So the session ends, i was angry from what he said, and it was like I will see you in two weeks and I will be on vacation. I left angry and he knew it. THat is when I found something he wrote on my disorder, and I felt like I was just a "project," but that was my abandonment issues and anger talking. I am not the only person he has treated for this disorder, and if he learned something from me, great. He agrees, we are all learning from each other. He made some mistakes, and he is aware of them, so t's aren't perfect. I didn't communicate how i was feeling in session, and waited until the session was over.
What did he do differently? I terminated therapy with him out of anger, but he was there during the whole process. I left for the wrong reasons, and we are starting up sessions again.
He is the only t I have ever been able to open up with, and he is willing to go the extra mile.
> Thanks for your response, healing928. When you say he didn't understand the extent of your attachment until you exploded during his vacation--what exactly happened? And once he understood, what did he do differently? I think your advice (to be direct) is good. I'll try to be as candid as I can when I see him next time.
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