Posted by lucie lu on September 10, 2008, at 14:11:55
In reply to Re: What's the diff. between 'care for' + 'care about' » lucie lu, posted by stellabystarlight on September 10, 2008, at 13:40:05
> Yes, those T-speak nuances! Seems I and probably a lot of others examine every word our therapists utter under a microscope. LOL.
Tell me about it.
> What is it about therapy that gives me such an urge to know his true feelings about me. It's so darn one sided! I have to admit I am a little embarrassed to ask what seems to be a trivial question, but it feels like a puzzle I'm trying to figure out.After 6 years I'm still trying to really pin it down myself. Transference is the first thing we think of, right? We weren't loved as we needed as children and now we have a second chance and we're desperate to make it this time? But then there's also self-worth... if someone knows us as well as our T's do, and still care for us, how bad can we be? They've seen us cry, puffy eyes, make-up smeared; we say mean or stupid things; act childishly ... in other words, we are ourselves and they don't flee in disgust. It's the Sally Field thing, "You like me! You really like me!" Poor Sally will go down in history for that but I for one was almost undone by her complete and touching honesty on that podium.
> Thanks for responding and clarifying. BTW, I've read your above "IMHO" post, and I appreciate your sensitivity. I have felt some of the things you mentioned...
Thanks so much for that, Stella. I was feeling a bit roasted over that so I'm happy to know someone felt the discussion was helpful. Someone besides my therapist, anyway :)
> I'm fairly new on babble, and it's comforting to know that there's so many caring people here like yourself.
Looking forward to getting to know you too. Babble is a special place, lots of good people.
Best, Lucie
p.s. I really like your name!
> Cheers,
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