Posted by antigua3 on June 23, 2009, at 20:58:52
In reply to Re: Need help reframing » Dinah, posted by Dinah on June 23, 2009, at 20:23:27
Yes, that's a good example. In our family, there were a million of them: don't talk about the family to anyone outside our family (keep family secrets always); don't cry, no matter how much it hurts; always stick up for each other (that was the kids' rule); and pretend after the fact that nothing bad ever happened (so it made me feel crazy, sometimes, because people acted like nothing had happened. this became "normal" to me and it took a good family relationship exemplified by my husband's family to see how strange ours really was).
Those are the kinds of things I see. Also, about the oval. I'm with you. If the goal is to "free" yourself from them, than seeing them all in one place could help do that--I guess it would help you see how much is really there, and if it's a lot, than maybe you need to let go, but if they're only taking up tiny spaces, maybe you have let them go already. But altogether, do they take up a big space? That's the only thing I see, but my family is a pretty horrible example. You seem to have had a more normal one. At least I hope so!
You're a better person than I am. I would throw the paper back in my pdoc's face. Yes, my anger issues raising their ugly head, but you have a longer, more even relationship with your T, so maybe I'd do it too to please him.
I'm not much help, am I?
antigua
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