Posted by Dinah on July 3, 2009, at 19:38:48
In reply to Re: Xanax CR is completely overrated » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2009, at 18:38:18
((( Therapygirl )))
It's possible I'm not at all right. It rings too many bells for me. I might be projecting my own experience of feeling alone in a room with my therapist onto you.
I wouldn't want my therapist to get a consultation. My therapist used to feel completely differently about long term therapy than he does now, and I'd hate for him to get his notions of proper termination from someone who really doesn't get it (the way he used to not get it.)
For what it's worth, your situation came up in therapy today. Because I can see myself being exactly where you are in a few years. My therapist spoke with more honesty than usual. Or perhaps not more honesty, maybe he just delved into places he usually doesn't go. From what he said, I don't think this is anywhere near intentional on her part. I mean, the leaving is, but her responses are probably not. He says when he is discombobulated (I told him your therapist used that word too) he was just so wrapped up in holding his own life together that he couldn't think clearly about anything. He admits that he doesn't cope particularly well in his own crises, while he does very well with other people's crises.
I can see being angry. I'll be angry with my therapist when he leaves me in body or in spirit, no matter what the reason. I'll be mad at him if he dies. But I'm guessing you can acquit her of deliberately toying with you. She's maybe just not as put together as we tend to think our therapist/mothers are.
I think the important thing at this point is that you do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe and get through this as best you can. If that means seeing her until you no longer can, then do that. Or if it means making the break before she hurts you more, then that is what you should do. If seeing another therapist to process this will be helpful to you then please do consider it. But if facing into the wind with just family, friends, and dog at your side, and without a therapist, is what is best for you, then this friend will totally support you in that.
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