Posted by emilyp on July 5, 2009, at 16:35:13
In reply to Re: I think I'm done with T » TherapyGirl, posted by Daisym on July 3, 2009, at 22:33:33
I do feel bad for you regarding the situation with your therapist. It is hard to lose someone you feel so close to. And yes, she does have a professional responsibility to end things properly. But consider for a moment the sadness and grief she must feel losing her husband. As someone else said, it is such a huge loss. My father was never the same after my mother, his wife of 40 years died. In fact, just three years later, he died. Although there was a true cause of death, when people ask how my father died, I frequently reply, he died of a broken heart.
Perhaps in the same way that you are having trouble adjusting to her situation, remember she must be having similar issues with her own loss. Is there a way that you can use that to create a bond (albeit somewhat temporary in light of her impending retirement) between the two of you? When my mother died, it was somewhat hard for my therapist to understand as he both his parents are still living. Yet, about a year later, his uncle, who he saw as a father, died. It gave us an experience to share.
If this does not work, you need to remember therapists are human. They cannot, despite our desires, always be there for us and they have their own issues. Perhaps rise above your sadness and anger and remember how she helped you. And give her the benefit of the doubt considering the huge loss she faces.
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