Posted by Daisym on July 3, 2009, at 22:33:33
In reply to Re: I think I'm done with T » Daisym, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2009, at 18:32:40
My mother's husband died 2 1/2 years ago. She isn't the same person at all now. The first year was especially hard because she bounced between being angry at us (her family) for "not understanding that she might not be able to be there for us" to weeping with strangers in public. My mother is the most put-together, contained individual I know, so this part was particularly shocking. The hardest part for me was that she couldn't see herself as less functional. I kept encouraging her to carve out space to grieve and she would make herself as busy as possible and then crash down.
I'm not excusing your therapist, but guessing instead that she just can't see herself. She keeps putting it on you because she has to.
What a sad place that leaves you. I know you love her and you have every right to be angry. It feels like she gets it half right sometimes and then wrecks it with whatever she does next.
I agree with Dinah. Do what you need to do for yourself. And that may change from month to month. Your therapist reminds me a little of my kids trying to leave home. Moving is hard, they push me away - then they blame me and say I'm happy they are out of the house. Separation is just really darn hard for humans.
(((Therapygirl)))
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