Posted by Lorne on August 6, 2005, at 22:53:22
In reply to Re: I slipped again ... (tough love version) » Lorne, posted by AMD on August 5, 2005, at 15:34:28
I wish you all the luck in maintaining your sobriety, I would suggest however you examine your reasoning.
You are not undergoing a hardship. You made a choice, to drink and do drugs, and you are experiencing the natural consequences of that choice. The cause and effect here is very clear, and in your open post you said them yourself. You did what you weren't supposed to, and negative consequences will follow.
You also are of the opinion that being supportive takes only one form, sympathy. Sympathy is nice, but I've never thought it was useful. Carl Rodgers, who came up with this unconditional positive regard garbage, realized at the end it wasn't the be all and end all.
I think its more supportive to challange you, make you rise to an arguement rather than sink into the comfy sick-bed of sympathy.
Instead of comming at me with, "you aren't being supportive", why aren't you angry with yourself for letting yourself down and slipping back into addiction? You can get "you poor dear" from any first year psychology student, why not use this experience to get some of that real juice going?
Lorne
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