Posted by Noa on May 20, 2000, at 15:15:51
In reply to Re: Bad Night, posted by juniper on May 20, 2000, at 12:32:57
Nikki, sorry you are in such pain. When I was younger and first coming to realize how depressed I was, I, too kept it a secret from my family. Except one brother. Later, I disclosed it to my sister. That was incredibly helpful for me. Finally, I hit bottom and after coming home from the hospital, I knew I could not get better unless I faced the fear of confronting my parents with my problems. For a while, it was uncomfortable because they treated me like I was made of eggshell, but after a while, as I realized I could not expect too much from them emotionally, I just learned how to set better boundaries in order to coexist with them. Years went by, and then I started struggling with the depression again. Last summer, when it get very bad, I told my parents. They have mellowed some at this point, and have been pretty supportive, the way they know how to be, with their somewhat limited emotional literacy.
Whatever you decide, you need someone to be an ally, a lifeline.
Are you in therapy? Do you take meds? Do you have a job?
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