Posted by Rebecca on May 20, 2000, at 22:06:22
In reply to Re: Bad Night, posted by NikkiT on May 20, 2000, at 15:44:19
Nikki,
One thing that I've found to be helpful is to have someone I can be open with. for me, it's some of my friends. So I know I can be with someone and not feel any pressure to be social or anything.
As for telling parents, I e-mailed mine when I wanted to let them know. It helped to be able to do it in writing and give them time to digest before I actually had to deal with them on the phone.
But now that I've told them, I have pretty mixed feelings about it--I was able to explain to them why I didn't apply to grad school last fall, but I still don't want to give them details. They're currently visiting (they live 500 miles away), and although I've had a pretty bad couple of weeks, I've been telling them that I'm fine. The funny thing is, when I'm with them and occupied and pretending to be ok, I do feel ok.
When I e-mailed them, I told them that I didn't want them to freak or pry, and I think setting up that expectation helped. They didn't ask about suicidal thoughts, which was a relief (I would have lied about that).
I want to keep them out of my medical decisions, though; this morning my mom gave me a copy of an article about therapy + meds being better than meds alone (I'm not in therapy), and I really wanted them to butt out of my life.
I don't know if this is what you wanted to hear, but I wanted to let you know that you're not the only young one here and that the parent thing can really be a sticky situation.
I wish you the best with it all.
Rebecca
poster:Rebecca
thread:34103
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20000517/msgs/34178.html