Posted by Jost on August 30, 2006, at 22:50:53
In reply to Self-Esteem suffering from depression recovery, posted by llrrrpp on August 30, 2006, at 17:08:57
Ll, are you sure you aren't more depressed, or feeling a sense of loss, about your Mom and Dad, and leaving home than about weight?
I mean weight is something you might feel is wrong with you, not with someone else, so it doesn't hurt as much-- Even though you feel bad about yourself, it's for being overweight (supposedly overweight, I should say)-- it's not because you can't make it better for others-- or stop the losses that they and you will suffer. Those are so much scarier and sadder (more tragic) than a few pounds. And by reducing what's at stake to a physical dimension, you made it possible to know--to tell if you've lost the weight-- it's nice and concrete-- measurable, achievable-- even if you don't feel good about yourself anyway-- or in the process (which may be part of the point?)
Maybe I'm off-base-- There's not anything that wrong with exercise or losing weight-- if you want to.
But it seems so much as if this has come over you in the last few days. As if it's being stirred up by something.
It's very sad that your Dad isn't well, and that your Mom lost her job-- very shocking and strikes at your heart-- but your love and presence in their lives and the world means a tremendous lot to both of them-- your being there and caring. It sounds trite, and overworked, but it's true. You give them what really counts, by being you--
No, it doesn't make all the other things go away--- if only it could. -- But it's such a precious thing.
Try to remember that. A few pounds here and there--- don't change the things that matter---
Terrestrial white whales are an incredibly rare species, and I personally wouldn't want one to be worried about how it looks-- it's a beautiful thing.
Jost
(Don't forget that. )
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