Posted by gardenergirl on May 14, 2004, at 14:16:35
In reply to issues with talking in sessions..., posted by B2chica on May 14, 2004, at 12:40:30
> last T session was Real tough for me. I finally danced around the actual topics i want to talk about with my T. I'm still not close to talking about them but i was able to admit that their there. i told him that i rationalize myself out of talking about them.
This is still progress. It takes time to get to the hard topics. Just introducing that there IS a hard topic is a start. I've done the same thing. When I felt like the topic was about to come out, I felt like I could literally hear brakes squealing in my head, and I put a stop to it. We talked about me stopping it for the rest of the session, and my T didn't pressure me to talk about it. That made it easier the next time, and I started to talk more about it.
> A Large part of me just wants to tell him i'm fine and i have no problems, so lets just stop.
Of course you feel this way, because you do want to be fine. And the work it takes gets tiring. It's up and down. It can be slow progress that is hard to notice. But this is your ultimate goal, isn't it? It's just that there is no magical solution, although we all wish for it.
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> Then after our session i am completely useless the rest of the day. i space out and just contemplate things. can't function at all.I have had the same response recently. In fact, I am taking a mental health day today. I had no appt's at work, so I stayed home so that I could be comfortable and work at my own pace. Sometimes, the therapy IS intense, and it affects you outside of the session. I found this happened more at the beginning, and in times when something new was being worked on. That's kind of where I am at right now. In between, the sessions don't take as much out of me, and I am usually able to go back to work or get on with my day without as much fatigue or spaciness. But it varies.
I think that planning for some self-care time is an excellent idea, even if it means allowing yourself the space to recharge after sessions. Maybe doing yoga, taking a warm bath, snuggling with your pet (I did that yesterday after my session) or meditating can help. Or watching a funny movie.
Take care, and hang in there. It's a process that is hard, but most often worth it.
((((B2c))))
gg
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