Posted by finelinebob on May 15, 2004, at 21:05:07
In reply to Re: issues with talking in sessions... » finelinebob, posted by B2chica on May 15, 2004, at 18:43:39
> My biggest problem is that i go back and forth, somedays i stay curled up with so much pain wanting to scream, scream out everything that has happened, to tell my T...
Reliving that pain is so damn hard, but sometimes the only way to defeat these things is to go THROUGH them. Just remember: you survived the pain the first time, when you had no support, no one to help, maybe someone else actively contributing to the pain who isn't there right now, and you have so many more skills now to help yourself. The pain may be the same, but you are SO much more today. When you are ready, you will face it and kick its @ss.
>and partly cuz i look at my "so called problems" and look at others and say mine are NOTHING compared to them...i feel angry, guilty, stupid, selfish, and worthless for wanting to tell.NEVER do that! Pain is pain. You will always be able to find one person somewhere in this cosmos who has suffered more than you, but the suffering of someone else DOES NOTHING to diminish your pain.
There's no calculus of pain. If there was, then we could do something like this: you have 11 pain units (PUs!) and I have 10. So, if I look at you and think my pain is nothing, then all of a sudden you only have 1PU. Meanwhile, neither of us hurt any less for it, do we? ;^)
> > I don't know if you feel any resonance with any of this, but I just wanted to share that and say I've been in a similar place. "Dancing around the topics" ...I was always looking instead at the shadows my dance would cast upon the boulders.
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> -if you don't mind i think i will use this quote to describe this to my T. maybe it's a start?Absolutely! All flb comments are public domain =^). Maybe if you can visualize stopping the dance and facing that fire, that can give you the calm you need to see what is there in the flames. The day I stopped dancing was a big day for me.
> >>but I don't have "lockjaw" for 40 minutes trying to say one word anymore ...
> -this makes me think there is hope...If you get this sort of lockjaw, if all you can do is get out some sort of "blllllyyyyeeeeaaaaahhhhhhoooooowwww!" or primal scream or anything ... well, again, it helped me.
> i really needed to hear these things flb
> Thank You for understanding and for sharing.
> ((((FLB))))right back at'cha!
(((((b2c)))))flb
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