Posted by Susan47 on January 27, 2005, at 16:02:08
In reply to Re: And now I know, posted by sunny10 on January 27, 2005, at 14:32:35
"And you have the right to feel badly that the relationship that you had hoped this would be didn't happen and that you have the right to keep trying until you find the one you can work with for the rest of your life."
No, what I'm saying though, later in the day, later in time, later in my awareness, is that there may never be just one. It changes, all the time, with the changes in myself. Outgrowing someone .. I've heard that so often in my adult life .. why people break up... "Oh, I outgrew him" "I matured and he didn't".. stuff like that, and other reasons, too, it's just sad that the two people didn't grow together. Eventually, if enough differences in growth show up, there has to be dissonance to the point of something actually happening, something important. Whatever the something is, the two people will either come out of it stronger and more committed, or they'll continue to a course of separation.
And that's not a bad thing. Because it's more important to grow than it is to stay together and be unhappy or stuck.
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