Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2005, at 17:30:02
In reply to Horrible session, posted by daisym on December 8, 2005, at 0:42:09
Daisy, I may be (and likely am) way off base here, because I'm talking from my own perspective and my own experiences.
But...
I found it soooo much easier for my adult rational self to accept and appreciate my (younger seeming) emotional self. To realize that that part of me has things to contribute. And that I wasn't a fully rounded person in the grown up rational mode.
And it may have helped even more when my emotional side found out that there were many ways of getting attention and nurturing. That what used to come my way only from acting out and being destructive could come my way just because I needed it or wanted it.
Do you ever give little Daisy alternative ways of achieving that intensity and intimacy with your therapist? Do you make her shout to be heard? As I said in another thread, my emotional self has taken to innocent nonsexual flirting with my therapist to get the intensity. And has found delight in making him laugh or otherwise capturing his interest. In positive ways.
Which can be a problem in itself, because it is sometimes useful to be a brat with your therapist, and not try to please him instead. :)
There can be compromises. Or at least there can in my case. Perhaps it isn't true for you. In which case, simply ignore everything I said.
poster:Dinah
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