Posted by LegWarmers on January 3, 2006, at 21:20:48
In reply to bad day, posted by ghost on January 3, 2006, at 20:30:07
>>she told me i needed to make an effort to intiiate plans to go out with people to overcome social anxiety.
I think thats true, I tend to be an initiater and when people don't recipricate I find it frustrating, when the other person does't recipricate I take that as a lack of interest.
>>that i can't rely on being asked places. she's only saying that because no one ever asks me to go places. no one likes to hang out with the weird fat girl who likes to wear big boots and fishnets. no one ever walks up to a girl like me in public and strikes up a conversation with me. no one ever asks for my number. no one likes the fat girl who dresses funny.
Its also about presentation (I mean attitude), if you present yourself as open to people, with a smile etc they are more likely to be open to you. I know we have a shallow society but I don't believe that everyone is that shallow that they judge people solely by thier apperance. Could you look for people who have the same style as you? Maybe you could start a conversation with someone?
Im really sorry you feel so bad :(
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