Posted by gardenergirl on January 8, 2006, at 14:28:12
In reply to Re: Long reply » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on January 2, 2006, at 11:07:00
> gg, your husband sounds a lot like mine. Only maybe more so. There are so many good things about being married to someone like that. (I'll bet he's enormously responsible and good at doing practical things.
Yep, you're right. Good thing, too. :)
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> And perhaps a tad Aspergerish? Not having Aspergers exactly, but Aspergerish?Hmmm, I've never really looked at him that way. I'll have to think about that one.
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> But... I think as we adjusted our expectations of what the other *can* do and be, we started to be able to appreciate the ways we complement each other and what each of us can bring to the relationship.Yeah, we're trying to do this, too. And I made a sign that says, "I can't read your mind." So far I haven't really used it, but I'm ready to. :)
>But if I think of him as differently abled so to speak, I can appreciate what he does bring, and look to find someone who can support me and understand me emotionally elsewhere, among my friends and my therapist.
Differently abled. That's a good way to put it. Yes, he and I are wired very differently in many ways. Fortunately not all. I'm not one who believes that "opposites attract" is necessarily a good thing. I think he and I have enough in common and enough love between us that we can get through this, too.
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> If that makes any sense?
>You make a great deal of sense.
Thank you.
gg
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