Posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2006, at 7:31:05
In reply to Re: Oh lordy, someone make the pain go away! » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on January 1, 2006, at 15:20:31
> Of course you aren't too needy!!! You and your husband might have a bit of a difference in your emotional expression styles and capabilities but that certainly doesn't make you wrong or your needs wrong.
Thanks. Yeah, he's from another planet when it comes to emotional expression. He's getting a tiny bit better. And I'm glad for that and want to help him with that. But right now....sorry bud, I don't have the emotional energy for that.
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> I'm so sorry you're hurting right now. And I'm so sorry about your grandmother.Thanks. I know you can relate, unfortunately. :(
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> Is there any chance of making things a bit different this time? Of telling your family that you really can't do it all, and need to spread some of the job of emotional nurturance around? (Not incidentally so that you can get some of your own?)Maybe. I'm not sure I even have the words to do that. But even spreading some of the phone calls and such seems to help. It gave me a break last night. We need a family phone tree. ;)
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> I hope your therapist is able to give you some emotional holding tomorrow, gg. You deserve to be able to grieve yourself without having to worry about taking care of anyone else.Thanks. I hope so too. Although I'm not sure how to ask or to frame what I need. Last time something like this, although not so intense happened, the session became all about my husband's issues, too. That was NOT what I needed then, and not what I need now. ME first, then let's try to work on the problem. sigh
Thanks again,
gg
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