Posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2006, at 7:01:16
In reply to Re: OMG. Am I too needy? » gardenergirl, posted by Tabitha on January 1, 2006, at 10:49:24
> GG, I don't think you're 'too needy', sounds like in fact you're taking care of others in the midst of overwhelming grief. I guess calling a partner 'too needy' is just an unfortunate way of saying 'you're wanting more from me than I'm willing or able to provide right now'.
That's a good way to put it, and I think you're right. Add to that his own needs, which I can't recognize, because he's Mr. Spock and I can't read his mind...so he feels like he's unsupported, too.
> Please don't take the bait and start looking for things wrong with you. This isn't the time for that. Not sure when is the time for that, but certainly not when you're going through the loss of a loved one. Nurture yourself as best you can. The grief will change, let up, and let go of you eventually. Hang on til therapy.
Thanks Tabitha, especially for pointing out what I was doing by taking the bait. And for offering hope. :)
gg
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