Posted by gazo on March 20, 2007, at 16:56:28
In reply to Re: a newbie in love))canadagirl » gazo, posted by canadagirl on March 20, 2007, at 9:50:50
> >>Will I fall for this one too? <<
>
> I thought about that with #2 as well, but nope, no chemistry. LOLI worry about that actually. I deliberately avoided women and old men. I do not want a daddy figure. I want there to be that chemistry because I don't think I will be open if it isn't there. I don't want to end up longing for the guy like now, but I do want to feel vulnerable... because then he can walk around my defences. (please don't anyone suggest I just not be defensive...I am going to therapy for a reason ;o) )
> I believe it is worse because it is a "forced separation" as he moved right?... Those intense feelings are part of the separation and the fact that there was no real closure. I think that is a huge part of the loss.I think so too. I was honestly able to work within a framework in spite of, or because of those feelings. If he had explained to be about transference, or once i found it myself, I would have eventually talked to him about them then. Instead I am having an artery cut out.
>You likely won't always feel so distracted and in such pain, it just feels right now like it will never end.
The trouble is I have responsibilities *now.* If I don't get my head on straight I am going to be fired.. and not next week... Now.
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