Posted by gazo on March 21, 2007, at 11:16:34
In reply to Re: a newbie in love}}onewomancine » gazo, posted by one woman cine on March 21, 2007, at 9:43:53
i will go look for tinydancer. i had a look around and i found the one i quoted and i found another, in the UK i think?, and she was marrying hers. i am not saying it's a *good* idea, i can see some of the potential for harm because i know i would belong body and soul to them, and wouldn't be good. But, at the same time it presents a gray area to me, afterall most relationships are not really equal, there is frequently power imbalances. I think we often "fall in love" with people through transference processes... it's what happens in the long run that decides whether it'sgood or not. So, to me, the big issue becomes the strength of the transference and how well it went. If the T were actually a good person and the relationship was not just false, well I tend to think it could be the deepest relationship ever.
PS... how are you guys getting thos elittle ">>" things in the subject? when I try all I get are)).
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