Posted by gazo on March 21, 2007, at 11:37:42
In reply to Re: a newbie in love}}onewomancine » gazo, posted by one woman cine on March 21, 2007, at 9:43:53
wow. I appreciate your intent in giving the link, but that woman is out of her tree. ;o)
She obviously has some pretty unrealistic standards about some stuff that just could not apply in many cases. "I saw my T at the gymn." Whoopee. "I see my T at social functions"(or something like that).. she obviously has her pratice in a large city and sees clients outside of her own sphere. That isn't possible in most places I have lived unless the T were a cloistered monk or something. Once I ended up in a book group with a T i had seen. I run into my pdoc off and on at stores or various places... what's the guy supposed to do? Not buy groceries?
I saw a lot there that were obvious boundary crossing... but it was so mixed with inocuous "life stuff" that it was weird. I mean, how can you list "he/she gave me sex toys" with "i saw him/her at the gymn?"
She apparently has the idea that ANY crossing of paths is somehow bad treatment or damaging. I think it would be different if the T was joining social activities just to be near the patient.
I mentioned to my T that I was worried if I bumped into him somewhere that he would think I was doing something inappropriate. He asked me what I would like, if he pretended not to know me or if i'd prefer he say hello. That worked for me. I do see him off and on as his office is in someplace where i go occasionally for other things.
Thanks for taking the time to help though.
http://psychjourney.com/Professional%20Boundaries%20Series.htm
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