Posted by Honore on September 14, 2007, at 17:01:25
In reply to T apologized... '*triggers*, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on September 14, 2007, at 16:15:41
Did I miss this, or were you saying you were uncomfortable because of things that have happened (ie the car incident, the dream, coming too many times/week), or did you become uncomfortable after he said you might not need to come more than 1x per week?
Could I ask what it would mean to come once rather than twice, or vice versa?
He seemed to want to pick up on what you want or need, rather than saying what he wanted or needed.
I personally kind of think the oedipal thing is overblown. I mean, it might have some general significance, but the focus on sexuality, to the exclusion of many sorts of elements of relationship between parents and children, seems to me wrong, or overly limiting. Not that it isn't sometimes the right focus, but also that it often isn't the right focus, or is only a small part of a complex picture.
But mostly, you know. I think he's trying to figure out what you can tolerate, what fits your psyche now, not judge or reject you. He's probably worried that seeing him too often, too soon, may drive you away-- be too intense-- or too invasive--
But, back to what I was wondering: what would it mean, to come once, or to come twice-- to you, or to him(ie what do you imagine it would mean, or feel like, to him)?
And I'm glad apologized. I feel he's some kind of over-eager dog who jumped up on you, and you were almost knocked over. (Isnt' that weird??)
Honore
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