Posted by obsidian on June 12, 2008, at 23:17:34
In reply to Re: Jealous of Therapist? » kateT87, posted by Dinah on June 12, 2008, at 22:26:55
mmm...yeah, I've got to say I agree with dinah
unless there was a real reason to share such things I'm not sure it's really appropriateI've got a friend who tells me these kind of stories (my early years and social life were excruciating) so usually what is running through my mind is "wow, you really wouldn't like me if you knew me when we were younger" and it just seems to shut me down and make me feel ashamed of my experiences and who I am.
When she's talking about cheerleading or something I am thinking about the places I'd "hide out" or the lengths I'd go to avoid school or how impossible it was for me to sustain a conversation.
She has no idea by the way that I feel this wayIt also kind of bothers me that she seems to place an emphasis on social acceptance as important. I'm more inclined not to care so much about socializing, it's not that I don't like people, but I have become pretty comfortable with being alone. I actually get a little overwhelmed when around a lot of people.
I don't know...the "real" friends I have met have been people who I have shared similar interests and values with, they've tended to be people I've met at school or work and I love them for being true to who they are.Anyway, we can't all have the same type of past, and we try to get what we need in our own way. It's not easy when relating to people is difficulty. I've learned to do it slowly and I think that therapy has helped me tremendously in this respect. Having someone hear me and not run away shrieking in horror is a welcome surprise. ;-). For me, the acceptance I have found in therapy has really made a lot more things possible for me. (don't get me wrong here...this hasn't been easy and it has been scary)
Feeling like you've got to hide yourself must just add to the pain.anyway...I get your uncomfortability and I hope you can work it out.
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