Posted by meme3842 on June 13, 2008, at 11:15:22
In reply to Jealous of Therapist?, posted by kateT87 on June 12, 2008, at 21:53:00
Hi Kate
I'm pretty much in agreement with what everyone else has said. She shouldn't be telling you that much about her life. My previous therapist was good about not divulging too much information. My current one is okay as well. Is it possible for you to to tell her, "Look, I'm not paying you to hear about your life?" My approach is to be a smart *ss when the therapist isn't being consistent within her boundaries. And usually they get the point. That would be my first reaction.Or could you talk to her about feeling jealous of her, about how she seems to be everything that you've strived to be? If she's a good therapist, then she'll listen nonjudgmentally and help you explore those feelings she's evoking in you. But if she gets defensive and brushes it away, then maybe she's not the therapist for you. Ultimately, I would think that you want a therapist who you can be straight with, even if it is uncomfortable. I think you should just tell her straight that you are feeling jealous. See how she reacts.
meme
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