Posted by Daisym on June 12, 2008, at 23:56:32
In reply to Re: Jealous of Therapist?, posted by obsidian on June 12, 2008, at 23:17:34
I think it is very brave of you to have talked with her about your feelings. It isn't easy for a heavy person to tell a thin person that they are making one uncomfortable. I know this all too well.
But, as much as I agree with Dinah that she needs to be thoughtful about what she is sharing, I wonder if this doesn't present an opportunity for you to explore this jealousy and use it as a motivator. Sometimes we make changes when we are in pain - and sometimes it takes knowing what we want to help us make the changes we need to. It is very painful and very hard to see someone who seemingly has everything. But you don't know at what cost, most over-achievers hide their pain.
I guess what I'm saying is, that it is pretty normal to become jealous of our therapists and their seemingly perfect relationships/lives. But it is a chance to really look at what it is we want most in our life. After several years, I'm hoping your relationship is strong enough for this kind of examination and that your therapist can move you along a new path in your life. Otherwise, you may need to conclude that together you've done all the work you can, and you need someone who can help you find your internal motivation to go after and get what you need.
Therapy can be a really painful process, can't it?
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