Posted by Daisym on July 31, 2008, at 18:44:04
In reply to Re: Labels and names **another csa trigger** Hermi, posted by Dinah on July 31, 2008, at 18:22:03
We've had lots of discussions here about ego-states and frozen age-states. Integration of states is very hard and most humans have several that pop up, depending on the circumstances. It is sort of "inner-child" work - but more than that. More like a variety of "real" selves housed in a socially acceptable "false" self - for me at least.
And I'm with Antigua here - it isn't my job to forgive my father. I'm leaving that to God. I have a relationship with him but it is a long-distance one. And I'm not like my parents - either one, very much. I worked hard to understand kids, professionally, which, of course, influenced my parenting. But my core values are pretty different as well - even what I make for dinner is different.
I guess it just shows that there is no "one-size" to any of this.
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