Posted by healing928 on August 3, 2008, at 19:01:47
In reply to Re: Borderline Personality Disorder.., posted by Amanda29 on August 3, 2008, at 17:21:45
I know my therapist likes me because gave me feedback when I told him how connected i feel to him. He has told me how he really likes me, and how he is amazed by some of our sessions. I can sense if he isn't having a good day, and just can sense things. he says that because my emotions are so that helps me feel empathy towards others and that is a good thing.
I know I will never be more than a client to him. I also know he will always be there as my t. I have said some really crappy things to him, but he always forgives me, and even when I terminated our relationship he is taking me back. My point is, he is my therapist, and I am his client, and that is what it is. I see him on Tuesday for the first time since I terminated our relationship about a month ago. In an email the other day I said, "I am looking forward in seeing you. I hope that doesn't too overly clingy." He responded, "No, and he looks forward to seeing me as well."
My point, be honest about your feelings, and you may get the feedback you need. We also need to be realistic, they are our t's and we went to be more, but they aren't going to break any ethics for us. I don't feel romantic transference for my t, more like a fatherly love, but I still want more. Anyway you look at it attachment, transference, and dependence it all hurts like hell!
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