Posted by Dinah on August 3, 2008, at 22:18:59
In reply to Re: Borderline Personality Disorder..NOT learned » Amanda29, posted by Dinah on August 3, 2008, at 22:09:03
Also, I've found it useful to think of my behaviors as helpful or not helpful as opposed to right or wrong. Beating yourself up over something you've done doesn't do as much good as evaluating whether the behavior achieves its desired goal. If not, are there behaviors that would be more helpful in achieving your desired goal?
What is your goal with your therapist right now? What behaviors of yours are most likely to achieve that goal?
If you do have borderline personality disorder, what are your goals now that you know? What behaviors can you engage in to meet those goals?
And down to the shortest timeframe, it would appear that you're feeling pretty upset right now. What has worked for you in the past to reduce the intensity of your distress? Do breathing exercises help? Have you had any success with meditation or yoga or exercise? It may sound silly, but I remember a time when watching Fawlty Towers was remarkably effective at reducing my level of distress. The other day when I had an anxiety attack, I found substantial relief by talking to friends and distracting my mind.
What helps you?
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