Posted by antigua3 on August 5, 2008, at 18:08:22
In reply to anyone understand?, posted by fleeting flutterby on August 5, 2008, at 17:47:26
I'm sure your husband wants to quit for you, but he can't. He's too addicted. No matter the love, the threats, etc., he still has to make the decision to get help. I say this in the kindest way, but it isn't about you to him, it's about the addiction.
So you have to decide what you want out of life and go for it. Have you tried Alanon? (Did I spell that right?). You need to take care of you now, and not focus as much on him, if that's at all possible. And you have to try not to take it personally. Do you feel like you're unlovable because he won't stop for you? If you do, stop beating yourself up. He's addicted.
I don't mean to sound harsh; I just hope you can find a way to concentrate on you, because sometimes we can't make others do what we want, no matter that it's the right thing.
I wish you the very best of luck. I know you're in a really difficult situation. And I think your T is looking out for you.
antigua
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