Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 6, 2008, at 13:57:16
In reply to Re: anyone understand? » fleeting flutterby, posted by antigua3 on August 6, 2008, at 10:08:52
> yes, I definitely think your T is looking out for you. Trust is hard, yes, but he is giving every indication that he wants to truly help you.<
--- hmmmm, I think you are probably right, still it's bugging me. think I'm going to call T. and see if I can discuss this with an extra session on my "off" week.
> Again, you may not like what he's saying sometimes (that's natural for all of us), and at times you may not agree with him (and tell him why not), but yes, your interests come first with him.<<
--I DON'T like what I hear sometimes and then it feels threatening and confusing. How can someone be for you when they say things that may hurt you? well, I don't usually tell T. about disagreeing..... I think maybe I'm a major people pleaser and I don't want to hurt her feelings..... sheesh-- Is this me taking care of everyone again?? maybe that's what I'm doing....
>>You've given a perfect example of why this is so painful for you. It's a repeat pattern of what you went through w/your mother. Explore this w/your T (if he's psychodynamic) and it will definitely help with what you're going through now.<<
--ugh.... with all due respect, I so don't understand all those "types" of therapy..... I have no idea what kind of therapy I'm doing..... it's all so confusing to me.....
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> And make that list!!! Be selfish, for once in your life. Life is short and there are wonderful opportunities out there. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel if you take care of him less and work on yourself more.<<YES! I'm going to do it! I already started with a couple things-- it's harder than I thought it would be though..... a whole page!-- yikes-- that's a lot of things....
thanks so much for your wonderful replies.... I'm so alone in my 3-D world..... I'm of the "schizo" type so I'm quite the loner(not a single friend).... but when stressed, being alone can be the worse thing. :o(
my soul is hurting so much.........flutterby-mandy
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