Posted by onceupon on August 6, 2008, at 20:26:12
In reply to Re: Uncomfortable... (very long), posted by wishingstar on August 6, 2008, at 17:09:18
Just wanted to mention that I got an icky feeling about the second issue you described. I imagine it would be *very* awkward to have someone with whom you have a professional relationship know personal, if mostly innocuous things about you.
But around the first issue, I get what you mean about having a hard time dropping the "competent, intelligent, whatever thing" in therapy. It's funny that we (OK, I) don't see emotions as competent. Intellectually, I *know* that having and expressing emotions does not undermine my "competence," but sometimes it's like I want to present this front to my therapist that conveys the message "I'm really OK" or "I'm not as crazy as I must sound." But then again, I really want to drop that front too, because I know it's holding me back in therapy.
I do find that forcing myself on occasion to talk about our relationship helps me to drop the front, so to speak. It sounds like your therapist might not be hearing some of your concerns very well (both the ones you are trying to express and the ones that you aren't). Might a more "process" oriented conversation be helpful at this point?
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