Posted by llurpsienoodle on August 8, 2008, at 23:54:12
In reply to the wrong thing... » llurpsienoodle, posted by twinleaf on August 8, 2008, at 18:37:06
> When I was looking for a therapist, I also found ones who treated me like a colleague. Like you, I found that they over-emphasized the healthy parts of me, and wanted to relate principally to that side of me. They also did what you describe- shared details and stories about other clients. It just doesn't work at all, and makes you feel more alone than ever with the things that are bothering you.
Thank you for putting that uncomfortable feeling into words. I feel flattered on the one hand, but steamrolled on the other hand.
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> The therapist I've got now even said once how "tempting it was to have social interactions with patients who are also colleagues. That can satisfy short term needs of the therapist, but can also make it harder for the patient to say what he truly needs to say."yep
> While he is warm and down to earth, he really keeps to his word about allowing me to show him all the things I am most frightened and ashamed of. I never hear a word about other patients or interesting clinical situations. I really appreciate that it's that way.
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> Can you talk about this with him, and find out whether he is willing to change his way of dealing with you? If you have really tried, and there's no change, do you have other choices where you live?There are choices, but I'm confident that we can turn this stuff around. After all, I was taking a break after my PhD for 6 months and was kind of nebulous about my career plans (had to figure out whether I was too psycho to pursue my dreams). He's been fully supportive since then. I remember the first half of our work together. It was terrifying and brilliant. I think we can steer our way back in that direction, hopefully with the alternative of a stronger llurpsie?
thanks for your insight,
ll
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