Posted by llurpsienoodle on August 8, 2008, at 23:58:58
In reply to Re: the wrong thing..., posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2008, at 19:23:38
> > The therapist I've got now even said once how "tempting it was to have social interactions with patients who are also colleagues. That can satisfy short term needs of the therapist, but can also make it harder for the patient to say what he truly needs to say."
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> That really gets to the heart of it, the short term needs of the T. I was also fortunate in that my T was very mindful of this issue. I did bring stuff from some of my cases into therapy. At times it felt similar to supervision, but it was a safer place to explore whatever was going on with me about that case than supervision was at times. And my T was also good about keeping it about me and not about doing therapy.We keep things mostly about me. For instance my own personal reactions to having to witness domestic violence in situ; other hard stuff like that. He hasn't given me any "pointers" or techniques to try out. That would be stepping over the boundary between T and supervisor, in a way that might be irreparable.
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> Llurps, I can see how bad that would feel if your T was too focused on you the clinician and not all of you. I don't recall a super-similar situation, but I do recall feeling frustrated and unheard when my T would focus a lot on my strengths and the positives when I was feeling so bad about the negatives.
>I feel the need to pipe up "but wait-- I've been having anxiety attacks and insomnia-- what's THAT all about?" even as he tells me that I seem less depressed and hopeless than this time last month. Also the cognitive dissonance between feeling BAD deep down inside, and being told that I project confidence and competence. Who's the real me?
> ((((llurps)))) It's all fodder for the brave. You're brave. Still, go at your pace and take care of yourself, 'k?
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> ggthanks gg, it means lots to me
-Ll
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