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Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
I notice there are soooo many types of therapists that people have. Soft and cuddly ones, formal ones. Loose boundaries, firm boundaries. Homework and structured sessions, requests for spontanaity.
How do we end up with the therapists we end up with? Is it just that we have no idea going in, but because of the nature of the therapeutic situation, we end up loving the one we're with (unless it's a really bad fit). Or do we choose what we need? Or do we choose what isn't really the best for us, but what we want?
I ended up picking my therapist because, calling around, I got mainly therapist receptionists. They seemed more interested in fee than anything else. All of them seemed rather offputting, and I rarely left my number. My therapist seemed interested in treating me. It seems kind of simple now, and not a very important reason for choosing a therapist, but looking back it's been very representative of our entire relationship. He wasn't too distant. Neither did he jump on me and try to sell himself. He was laid back and interested, receptive, but he followed my lead as to whether I wanted to make an appointment. He gave me his business card and told me he'd be happy to hear from me (despite the fact that I was a total jack*ss at the seminar he was giving).
And that's pretty much been him. He's always there, doesn't overreact to what I tell him or what I do, is consistent and laid back, receptive but with a firm and unmoveable core. He took me back on those occasions I quit in a huff, and was always gracious. He makes me feel safe.
I've seen a few other therapists and pychiatrists. A few were rather abrasive - I can't tolerate that a bit. But some people might find them action oriented and like them quite well. Some were distant and vague, very blank slate. That's great for a psychiatrist, I wouldn't care for it in a therapist. Some were way too intrusive for me. They didn't sit in their chair (emotionally speaking, not physically) and let me approach them, they forced themselves into my psychic space. Some people would probably find them warm and giving. But they scare me. My least favorite pdoc once said that my therapist was no good for me. We were both too much in our heads, and he wasn't reaching my emotions. Of course, I found that guy both abrasive and intrusive and wouldn't have stuck out therapy with him.
I see on this board therapists that wouldn't be a good fit for me. They're too rigid or too enveloping. Then there are Pfinstegg and Daisy's therapists who I am quite jealous of sometimes. They seem so caring and make mine seem withholding in comparison. And mine is withholding, not only in comparison but in truth as well. But I wonder if I could have lasted with those paragons when I first started. If my therapist's more cerebral and detached style was all that I could have tolerated. I think maybe we've grown together. Or maybe just I grew, and he accomodated his style to my growth.
I know most of us think our therapists are juuust right. But how do we make that match?
What are you looking for in a therapist, and how did you find it? (Or have you found it yet?)
Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:41:50
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
Hmmm...
Another thought. My therapist and I were talking the other day about the fact that my closest friends were always unusually resilient. He didn't think that was a coincidence. He thinks I have an uncanny knack of choosing those people and situations that are good for me, and are a good complement to my weaknesses.
My therapist is also very resilient. Very laid back, calm, unflappable, and resilient.
Posted by Penny on April 29, 2004, at 10:25:19
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Dinah, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:41:50
Interesting...
Well, I've seen several therapists and pdocs as well, and, as you know, I love the ones I have now. The first time, with my first T, I guess I was just lucky. I couldn't get an appointment with anyone and she had an opening. But she was good - had a pretty good mix of firm boundaries and accessiblity.
But my T now...well...I think she's fantastic. This time I interviewed three of them. One of them I didn't like at all - she would put words in my mouth, and I don't like people speaking for me in that way. And she assumed I was going to continue with her. The other two were both good. One of them reminded me a great deal of my old T, which I liked. But the other, the one I chose, had some things in common with my old T but more experience. And after our consultation session, I told her I had one more interview to do. She said, "Well, just let me know, because I want to make sure you're in somebody's good hands if not in mine." That really stuck with me. My pdoc (who gave me all their names) said that in addition to caring, it showed that she had a great deal of confidence in her ability to help me, which I probably found reassuring.
Her boundaries aren't as rigid as my former T, but they are rigid where they need to be. Of course, I don't push it either. And I don't feel a need to...
I would say she is also laid back, calm, unflappable and resilient. And she has this way of saying *just the right thing*, and of helping me to look at a given situation in a different light. She's very down-to-earth. And she loves animals, which doesn't hurt. :-)
P
Posted by rainyday on April 29, 2004, at 10:46:48
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
My current T was recommended by my p-doc, who my husband found through the website of the American Psychiactric Association (or whatever it's called). She has no receptionist (none of my Ts have had - just answering machines). She shares a gorgeous old house that has been made into offices with other Ts. She has very subdued lighting in her office, and usually some sage being burned as purification. She brings her doggy to the office. There are wave sound machines in the hallways so privacy is maintained.
It's a very serene environment. My T is petite and tidy whereas I usually feel like I'm an unmade bed.
She's warm and compassionate. Sometimes she'll go off on the same tangent that we have in the past, even though it was fruitfull. It doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes our sessions seem to me to be social visits because I feel so comfortable talking to her. She always gives me homework to do, and I am pretty good about following it up. I am trying to be active in my recovery and she makes it easier for me.
I have had a few Ts that were bad fits. One was male and we met in a very sterile-feeling, impersonal office setting. He sat and took notes and fired questions at me and I never could figure out what he was trying to get at. I ended up leaving him a message that I didn't feel comfortable talking to him, and he was nice enough to leave a message back saying "no hard feelings".
My other favourite T was from when I lived "up north" and was recommended by a friend who was going through a separation at the time, as I had been contemplating. She too had her doggy in the room with her. The office was in a woodsy area and oozed serenity. I always felt flea bitten when I left but I didn't care.
The setting is very important to how I respond. If I don't feel comfortable in the room I hardly notice who I'm talking to. I'm a real "nester". I have noticed that whenever I move. I don't feel settled until I get at least 1 room done. Then I can relax.
My current T also runs a women's wellness circle (where I cried this week). She is seeing a local shaman and is going to see if I can see her too. She knows I am intrigued by spirituality and am open to alternative practices.
I am very grateful to have found her.
Posted by lifeworthliving on April 29, 2004, at 10:54:29
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
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> What are you looking for in a therapist, and how did you find it? (Or have you found it yet?)i called mine because she is close and FREE. how she turned out to be so perfect can only be explained through divine intervention. i feel very fortunate.
--life
Posted by tabitha on April 29, 2004, at 11:40:07
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
I can't remember exactly how I ended up with my therapist. I know she had a newspaper ad, I think it was for group therapy, and I had a consultation, and she hooked me by getting teary about some old trauma I told her about, but I don't remember how I ended up in individual therapy instead of group. Maybe I'll ask her today if she remembers. She has a great memory, it's one of her best features. For a long time I didn't like the office. It was kind of a fancy high-rise, and I didn't feel like I belonged there, but I got used to it.
Posted by rs on April 29, 2004, at 19:31:41
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
Good question. My T was found by the yellow pages. Called many before. No call back. Left a message on this anwering machine and receptionist phoned back. Had an appointment that week. Oh I hated him. Did not go back till a few months after. Walked in when in crisis. Asked if could see someone else. Told not because of insurance stuff. Anyway he saw me for 10mins that mad another appointment. Anyway still did not like him for many weeks. Finally this person realized what needed and he worked around that. Today he is the best ever. Took much courage on my part but also patience and understanding on his. You also asked what do people look for in a T? Well you know I look for understanding,belief,trust,patience,caring. Also here there are times that will need to phone so someone that understands that and calls back within a reasonable amoutn of time. He at first waited hours to call back. Now he calls right after session is done. Do not call often but he knows need this at times. This person is taking a risk with me and has proven that. Could not tell you what he is willing to do for me to get through this. Wish everyone had this good caring in their life.
Posted by tabitha on April 30, 2004, at 0:35:28
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit, posted by tabitha on April 29, 2004, at 11:40:07
OK, so I asked her. She doesn't remember crying in our first meeting! She almost seemed skeptical. She asked whether she reached for a kleenex. Then I realized I've never known her to cry in a session, and started doubting my own memory.. But anyway I told her she maybe just cries to hook the new clients, and she pointed out there's my lack of trust again. Well OK.
Posted by Dinah on April 30, 2004, at 1:15:45
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit, posted by tabitha on April 30, 2004, at 0:35:28
Chuckle. Tabitha, you'll never convince me that a lack of trust is an unhealthy trait. Healthy skepticism is a good thing. As long as it doesn't get in the way of your therapy.
Now my therapist has the same memory of our first meeting as I do. I was a royal jack*ss at the seminar he was giving. :)) Not that he puts it that way, but he smiles appreciatively and knowingly at my description, as he changes it to a more low key assessment of my behavior. Something about healthy skepticism on my part, I believe. :D
Posted by Aphrodite on April 30, 2004, at 7:07:54
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
Since I am so new at this process, I don't know for sure if mine is a good fit. I like him very much; he's extremely intelligent and has a very gentle spirit. He's easy-going and laid back, but I am very Type A and full of nervous energy. I am anxious to move faster, but he's slows me down just by being him. This whole self-discovery nonsense gets on my last nerve sometimes:) Just tell me what's wrong, how to fix it, and let's move on!
Posted by gardenergirl on April 30, 2004, at 8:57:26
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Dinah, posted by Aphrodite on April 30, 2004, at 7:07:54
I was assigned to my T randomly, I think. Whoever does the intake keeps the client unless there is a good reason not to. I'm so glad I got him as I have heard some things about the other one and he doesn't sound like a good fit for me. So I think divine intervention may play a role. 'cause he's a good fit!
gg
Posted by thewriteone on April 30, 2004, at 21:05:39
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
That's interesting. I'm on my 2nd T. The first one was more than a decade ago and he just didn't work for me because after going to him for ahwile, I didn't feel it was helpful at all.
With my current T, I was a little put off by her at first. I don't know, she seemed cold and...I'm not sure. I did, however, sense a warmth underneath all that. I felt that if I hung in there for awhile, she'd deveolp some sort of affection for me and I for her. That sense paid off, though it took longer than I would have liked. I think I would have known pretty quickly if she and I weren't a fit 'cause I never felt anything like that for the first guy.
Posted by smokeymadison on April 30, 2004, at 22:53:33
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
i wound up with a therapist who had a lot of experience with OCD and who was a Christian. i choose to see him because of my OCD and the fact that i am struggling very hard with my spirituality. i am torn btw Christianity and Buddhism. but i want to make Christianity work b/c that was how i was raised and it is impossible for me to totally do away with it. i wish that i could, but i can't. so a Christian therapist could help me figure things out.
to me he seems rather aloof and he sets firm boundaries, which is totally opposite my old therapist. so that is good, i guess, b/c my old T was overbearing in sympathy. i left my sessions feeling more sorry for myself than when i went in to it. anyway, my T seems aloof, but underneath i know he really cares. he has told me that he has fasted and prays for me. he puts up with midnight calls once in a while. he keeps them short but sweet.
once in a while my anxiety gets hold and i am terrified that he doesn't care, and that he will drop me if i get worse. he has already threatened to quit seeing me if i drink and don't take my meds. then i often hold things back from him in fear that he will reject me. so i guess i wish that he showed a little more emotional concern than he does. then i could open up more comfortably. is it right for him to use my fear of his rejection to make me get well? that seems to be reality. he talks of how i am an investment for his and God's time. that he invests so much b/c he sees potential. but what if he stops seeing potential? then what? i am getting more and more anxious writing this. help!
Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2004, at 9:28:04
In reply to anxious my therapist will stop seeing my potential, posted by smokeymadison on April 30, 2004, at 22:53:33
No advice, but I understand. :(
Posted by Aphrodite on May 1, 2004, at 12:40:30
In reply to anxious my therapist will stop seeing my potential, posted by smokeymadison on April 30, 2004, at 22:53:33
I sense a lot of stuggle for you in these spiritual matters. Since you aren't sure of Christianity and you see a Christian therapist, are you afraid that rejection from him would also mean rejection from God and/or the church? Or, am I reading more into that? Does your therapist try to "sell" you on Christianity, or is he open-minded and willing to explore your attraction to Buddhism?
I find this issue fascinating as spiritual blocks are one of the biggest issues I work on. Ironically, my T is a Buddhist, though he definitely doesn't try to put that on me and doesn't "bill" himself as such. It came out casually several months into my therapy. However, I have found some of his Eastern beliefs that he incorporates into his therapy practice to be very helpful such as meditation, mindfulness, etc.
I hold back too in fear that I'm finally going to say the one thing that will eventually overwhelm him and cause him to reject me. Of course, this is all in my mind, but I can relate to your fear. It sounds like his conditions for dropping you are behavior-oriented, not a commentary on who you are. I certainly hope he is of the forgiveness and redemption end of Christian therapy and not the "sitting in judgment" side.
Posted by lonelygirl on May 1, 2004, at 14:15:05
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
As I've described before (and I'm sure I read like a broken record), I was forced to go to counseling at my school's health center because I got in trouble at school.
I was randomly assigned to my psychologist for the initial consultation -- I didn't have any say in that. At the time I had the consultation, he was not yet licensed, and he informed me that once he submitted his treatment recommendations, I would be placed on a waiting list and get assigned to the first licensed counselor with an opening (at this point, he told me I would probably not see him again).
Shortly after he submitted his treatment recommendations, he got his license, and I ended up getting assigned to him (he told me that he asked for me to be assigned to him, but I'm not sure if that's really true).
I do think he is a good fit for me. I am very picky. As a child, I was forced to see several different psychologists and psychiatrists, and I have never particularly liked any of them. When I was again forced to go to counseling at school, I was annoyed about the requirement, and endured it only because otherwise I would have been kicked out of the dorm, and I fully intended to attend only the mandatory 6 sessions.
For a while, I was very resistant and rather uncooperative (not that I was argumentative or hostile, but I lied on the intake forms and in the consultation to minimize my problems, said as little as possible in the sessions, and generally had a bad attitude about it). Somewhere around the 4th session -- really the 5th time I saw him -- I started to have a change of heart, and in a move that would probably surprise anyone who knows me, I actually decided to continue seeing him of my own volition.
I am really impressed with him in many ways -- and I am not someone who is easily impressed. He is so patient and kind, even when I was being uncooperative. I often feel like he is truly listening to me and responding personally, unlike others who just seemed to go by a generic formula. He is rational and logical and I like conversing with him, and the world kind of makes sense when he is there. He has some amazing insight into a lot of things. He has a somewhat cheesy sense of humor, but I like it when he jokes around with me a little.
I am relatively comfortable with him. Maybe not as much as other people here (e.g., I would never be able to tell him that I feel like I am in love with him), but I am probably more open with him than with anyone else in my life, including my family.
Gosh, I’m going to miss him : (
Posted by mair on May 1, 2004, at 23:16:24
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit, posted by lonelygirl on May 1, 2004, at 14:15:05
Someone here once wrote a post about how she went about finding a new therapist, and it made me realize that I paid less attention to getting a therapist than I do to buying a piece of clothing.
I went to my first therapist (well not my very first) because he was one of the few shrinks I knew - pretty well but not so well that I would feel uncomfortable seeing him. I now question whether he was a good fit for me at all, but when I was seeing him, I don't think I'd have had it in me to question this, terminate him and find someone else.
I did stop therapy or at least really pared it down, and after awhile I decided I needed to go back into more regular therapy. I wanted to try something different, but didn't want to hurt his feelings, so I asked him for a recommendation for someone to do short term CBT with me (not his thing at all). He recommended my current therapist, whom I probably would have found on my own for no better reason than that years ago, someone had mentioned her as a good T to see. It never occurred to me to do more research or interview multiple therapists, and I'm not sure how I'd go about this even if I was a more saavy consumer.
The CBT stuff was a little bit of a red herring. She figured out pretty early on, that short term CBT was probably not going to be very effective and I've now been seeing her for 4+ years, mostly twice a week.
I think she's a good fit, but I have so little to compare that to, and my respect for boundaries is probably stronger than her need for them, so I mostly haven't allowed myself to feel a real attachment.
Pretty much my experience on how I came to see my therapists is a text book case on how not to find one, although, I think it's working out ok with my current therapist.
Mair
Posted by smokeymadison on May 2, 2004, at 18:53:25
In reply to Re: anxious my therapist will stop seeing my poten » smokeymadison, posted by Aphrodite on May 1, 2004, at 12:40:30
my therapist beleives that i won't be well until i accept God back into my life. this is all right with me b/c i accept that i need a religion and i can't get rid of Christianity so it is best for me to just embrace it.
the reason i can't is that i feel like it would be giving into a male authority. a big part of me is rebellious. to accept Christianity fully would be to give in, to adhere to what my dad (a pastor) and my therapist want for me to do. i can't do that. i wish i could accept God as female, that would certainly help. i have been abused by men in the past and it is just a big issue for me to submit to men.
if i can get the guts up to say so, i will talk with my T about my anxiety over him dumping me as a client. it is going to be very hard. but i know i have to talk about it. maybe it will prevent it from happening?
Posted by Pfinstegg on May 16, 2004, at 17:21:10
In reply to A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 9:34:49
I just came back from vacation and noticed your mention of my T. I think I should fill in the picture a bit, as i wrote most of my posts about him when I was just starting, and they did have a bit of a *honeymoon* aspect to them! I do think he's a very good therapist, especially for abuse and PTSD, which are my main issues, and I do think we are a good *fit*, although I can get into lots of states when I DON'T think so! Sometimes it's just miserable going in there, having horrible flashbacks, and most painful of all, feeling he's barely in the room with me. The thing is, though, that I know he is there, and is focussing quietly and intently on me, and that all these painful things are part of my illness. Sometimes, though, these painful states are so severe that I just have to try to get through them; it's not always within my power to receive comfort or support from him, much as I want and need it, He says that we are still just at the beginning; just before I left to go away, he said one morning, "I think this is the first moment tht you have felt really securely attached to me". He was right.
On the lighter side of things, when all this really painful stuff lightens up for a bit, I do find him delightful- fun- we share a lot of genuine laughter over various things. But, mostly, now, it's very hard going.
Posted by Dinah on May 16, 2004, at 17:49:21
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Dinah, posted by Pfinstegg on May 16, 2004, at 17:21:10
Well, you still haven't said anything that makes me think he isn't terrific. :)
I'm so happy that you're feeling securely attached! And it's wonderful that he noticed it! I had to hit mine over the head with a bat (metaphorically of course) to get him to notice I wasn't the same unattached client I was before.
You're working very hard at your therapy. Much harder than I am, I think. My therapist came right out and said that his treatment plan for me was twice a week supportive therapy to keep me stable and functioning. (I guess he didn't use the words "supportive therapy" but I've read enough about supportive therapy to know the code words that can mean nothing else.) I'm a bit discouraged that he really doesn't want to challenge me. But, oh well. I guess I've given him plenty of reason to feel that way.
So when you're working hard and it feels rotten, I hope you remember that your therapist is paying you the great compliment of thinking you're up to the challenge, with his assistance and support.
Posted by Pfinstegg on May 16, 2004, at 18:28:37
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2004, at 17:49:21
He is good; I think I'm at an earlier stage of therapy, by far, than you. For now, I can only sustain the attachment securely for brief periods. Working on that, as well as the abuse and abandonment issues, is what we are doing all the time. But it is wonderful to have someone to do that with.
Don't you think you have accomplished a lot of that by all the hard work of earlier years? From what you have been posting, you are turning outwards towards the world now, and he is making sure that you know he is not going to abandon or terminate you just because you have gotten better. He seems to be saying that he's always going to be there - you'll probably still be going to him when you are completely well! And why not? That's what I plan on doing.
Posted by Dinah on May 16, 2004, at 19:17:50
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Dinah, posted by Pfinstegg on May 16, 2004, at 18:28:37
I don't know that I'll ever be completely well. There seems to be a biological basis to the mood cycles and meltdowns that somehow got triggered by postpartum hormones and have never let up.
But I'm getting a lot more philosophical about it. If I can see it happening, I'll go on Risperdal for a few days, throw in an extra therapy session or two and sleep as much as possible. It's when I can't see it coming that it's a problem. Fortunately, I've got good friends who give me a little warning when I'm not quite right.
And yes, he seems quite comfortable with the idea of seeing me as long as he's capable of practicing. :) So my abandonment fears rarely get triggered any more. Whew.
Posted by babbgal on May 17, 2004, at 19:56:27
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » Pfinstegg, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2004, at 19:17:50
Hi all:
I am new here, hope I'm not jumping in too late; just wanted to share my story on how I ended up with my really good T.
I had been seeing my psychiatrist -- intensely -- for about six months (bipolar II diagnosis) when he explained he had to refer me out for therapy and move our visits to more of a medication-management deal. I was terrified at the prospect of less-frequent visits to my M.D., but as I psychically un-pried my fingers from his office door, I dialed the number of the Ph.D. that he gave to me. He said, "A lot of people don't like this guy, and don't end up lasting with him because he's tough, but I've never seen anyone get the kind of results he does." So there I went.
The cool thing is, my psychiatrist is in solo practice and so is my therapist, this Ph.D. They share a handful of patients and confer about these shared patients once a week in a teleconference. Even better, my therapist tells me every week what they said about me...and if he doesn't bring it up, I ask! My T.'s guiding principle is "transparency" and I am completely confident that I am being treated by a great tag-team. (BTW, I still see my psychiatrist every two weeks, and for various reasons, I've been seeing him for hour-long visits for the past two months or so, instead of 1/2 hour "med only" visits, so I feel well, well taken care of.)
My T. is very reachable by phone and I often schedule extra sessions when I feel l need to. I started seeing him when I was going through a MAJOR crisis at work (serious mental harrassment by my boss; I ended up filing an ADA claim and hiring an attorney to deal with the situation) and seeing him 2-3 times a week plus talking an hour or more on the phone was not uncommon.
But yeah, he's tough and we WORK. But I trust that I can say anything to him, including when I don't like what he says to me, when I'm angry, upset, scared, pissed off, whatever. Sometimes we have very happy, joking around sessions. Sometimes, like when I saw him this past Saturday (!), I told him something I have never told anyone in my entire life, and it took me about 15 minutes to say the words, and he honored it and said that when I left he would "take copious notes." Tonight when I see him I plan on asking him what those notes said! That's the kind of relationship we have.
Anyway, I know I'm really lucky. I hope this all makes sense, it's my first post here. Thanks for listening.
Posted by Dinah on May 17, 2004, at 23:17:03
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit, posted by babbgal on May 17, 2004, at 19:56:27
Hi, and welcome!!
It's never too late to post on Babble.
I'm glad you found a therapist that's a good fit for you. I'm probably one of those who would run from a tough therapist. But that's why they make all sorts, right?
It sounds as if you have a really comfortable relationship. And to have developed that in such a short time, and after having been pried away from your psychiatrist (boy, do I understand that!) really says a lot about the rapport. :)
Posted by babbgal on May 18, 2004, at 13:12:21
In reply to Re: A good therapist fit » babbgal, posted by Dinah on May 17, 2004, at 23:17:03
> It sounds as if you have a really comfortable relationship. And >to have developed that in such a short time, and after having >been pried away from your psychiatrist (boy, do I understand >that!) really says a lot about the rapport. :)
Thanks Dinah. :)
Saw my T. last night, our first session after the really tough one, where I told him a really difficult secret; like I mentioned, it took me about 15 minutes to say the words. This session was a bit "lighter" in tone, though we did talk about some important stuff, just stuff that I felt stronger about, that wasn't going to make me cry or be upset -- actually, it was stuff I was angry about, which for me, is actually easier to discuss.
My T. said, "Look, we just did some tough stuff in the last session, so it's OK if your head and your heart want to back off a little and we go off on tangents. You'll come back around when you're ready."
My T. and I are on our 9th month working together, and we're still discovering things about each other. I feel safe with him. I also feel incredibly safe with my psychiatrist, too, and the fact that they work so closely together makes me feel like I have this great safety net. Really, I don't know what I would have done this past year (am coming up to 1 year since being diagnosed) without the two of them...
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