Posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 10:33:01
She talked to my husband about the way he fusses at my son, and how much of a negative impact he has on him, and how my son not only feels like he'll never measure up, but also judges everyone else as harshly as he judges himself.
(She says she has to explain how most children behave and think to my son. That he not only doesn't realize it, but once she explains he doesn't understand how it's possible.)
But that's not going to work. Already it's back to same old, same old, and it's only been days.
Shouldn't she treat my husband's behavior the way she treats the school bully's behavior? As something that is unfortunate and we wish it wouldn't happen, but it's a given in this world like the son rising and setting. And my son needs to learn how to react in the face of my husband's behavior. He's young. She's got a shot with him. My husband will never change.
And he's a wonderful dad in so very many ways. If only my son can see all those wonderful ways, and discount the one or two bad ways.
poster:Dinah
thread:488746
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