Posted by AuntieMel on April 25, 2005, at 15:40:25
In reply to I think the therapist is making a mistake, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 10:33:01
I forget how much your husband fusses - and at what situations.
If he really does *always* fuss at him and make him feel inadequate then I would say it is a real problem. Try listening to it as if you were 9 and ask yourself if it would be something you can learn to deal with.
The school bully is different. He doesn't have to *live* with the bully - and doesn't want to look up to him.
Husbands can change - if they see the need for change. Have you tried taping him and playing it back?
Meanwhile maybe your husband can do more of the things they do wonderfully together to balance it out.
I just know what it felt like to me when it happened. And one of the biggest things I'm working on in therapy is having the ability to stand up for myself.
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