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Re: I think the therapist is wrong again » AuntieMel

Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2005, at 16:35:20

In reply to Re: I think the therapist is wrong again » Dinah, posted by AuntieMel on April 29, 2005, at 14:25:30

No fights, and very toned down. Sometimes just a hand on his shoulder or catching his hand. Sometimes a quiet remark that I wish Dad had chosen to say that differently. A while after, I might say that when people say things like that to me, I feel bad afterwards. Does he feel bad afterwards? And the things that my son answers... I wish my husband took them to heart. They aren't angry lashing out things. They're very sad things. His offhand remarks about his dad are the same.

I also point out all the legitimate ways my husband is wonderful with my son. How much fun he is to play with.

Anything more than that I say to my husband privately.

I don't want to recreate the triangulation that was in my family. But I also don't want my son to think that he deserves to be treated disrespectfully or that it's ok. Which sort of sticks me in an awkward situation. But I don't know if I can solve it by doing what the therapist suggests.

Any more than my husband can do what the therapist suggests. (Reiterating that this is about relatively minor things, being disrespectful to my son, disciplining by startling with anger. Nothing remotely abusive.)

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