Posted by Rigby on June 15, 2004, at 17:45:53
In reply to My cat is gone., posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2004, at 16:52:39
Hi Kara Lynne,
A few years ago my beloved kitty ran away. What you are writing here was so much of how I felt too. My bargain with "the gods" was to just give me another moment with his weight in my arms--just another moment to feel that heft.
I did everything. I hung up 500 signs, went to the pound, called for him. I even hired Sherlock Bones, a pet detective. PLEASE, if you haven't already--google how to search for a missing cat. Best tips: signs and lots of them, look for her late into the night when it's quiet, she's more apt to be bolder and you can hear her. Had I looked for my baby boy this way I would have found him easier.
The rest of my story is kinda/sorta happy. Twenty six days later he returned. I was wrecked physically from the experience--it took a toll. He was okay though--cats are survivors and yes, generally they DO show back up. And yes, they generally ARE very close--within a block!! Check with neighbors in their garages too--they get locked in.
Since we live in a pretty quiet 'hood and our other cats are in/out and we figured he'd learned his lesson we let him back out again. Again he went missing but this time he got hit by a car--I found him, rescued him but he'd broken his pelvis and his kidneys got hit. We've nursed him now for 9 months but he will go down on Friday. My anguish feels like yours--I can just so relate but with your kitty you've still got a chance--do not give up, do not get too depressed to do anything.
I'm sorry if my message repeats others' advise--I did not have time to read all the responses.
My heart goes out to you. It feels even worse not knowing and imaging your sweet Alice somewhere awful is extraordinarily painful.
One silver lining--my kitty got lost right around a year into therapy--this loss and this impending loss this week have been gateways into feelings I did not know I could access. A special friend, a special kitty can change us forever--can change us for the good.
Big hugs...
poster:Rigby
thread:332149
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