Posted by Rigby on June 15, 2004, at 17:58:01
In reply to There Is Hope » kara lynne, posted by Rigby on June 15, 2004, at 17:45:53
Hi Kara Lynne,
I didn't look at the date this happened--early April. So yes, there is hope but this is a long while. However, I have definitely heard of kitties coming back after 4 months even. I told myself I would stop with the signs after about six weeks. I think grieving the loss of a kitty you are not sure what happened with is probably the hardest thing. There are grief support groups--I may join one after we put my cat to sleep on Friday.
Rigby
> Hi Kara Lynne,
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> A few years ago my beloved kitty ran away. What you are writing here was so much of how I felt too. My bargain with "the gods" was to just give me another moment with his weight in my arms--just another moment to feel that heft.
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> I did everything. I hung up 500 signs, went to the pound, called for him. I even hired Sherlock Bones, a pet detective. PLEASE, if you haven't already--google how to search for a missing cat. Best tips: signs and lots of them, look for her late into the night when it's quiet, she's more apt to be bolder and you can hear her. Had I looked for my baby boy this way I would have found him easier.
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> The rest of my story is kinda/sorta happy. Twenty six days later he returned. I was wrecked physically from the experience--it took a toll. He was okay though--cats are survivors and yes, generally they DO show back up. And yes, they generally ARE very close--within a block!! Check with neighbors in their garages too--they get locked in.
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> Since we live in a pretty quiet 'hood and our other cats are in/out and we figured he'd learned his lesson we let him back out again. Again he went missing but this time he got hit by a car--I found him, rescued him but he'd broken his pelvis and his kidneys got hit. We've nursed him now for 9 months but he will go down on Friday. My anguish feels like yours--I can just so relate but with your kitty you've still got a chance--do not give up, do not get too depressed to do anything.
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> I'm sorry if my message repeats others' advise--I did not have time to read all the responses.
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> My heart goes out to you. It feels even worse not knowing and imaging your sweet Alice somewhere awful is extraordinarily painful.
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> One silver lining--my kitty got lost right around a year into therapy--this loss and this impending loss this week have been gateways into feelings I did not know I could access. A special friend, a special kitty can change us forever--can change us for the good.
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> Big hugs...
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