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Re: on materialism. (my own.) » soulnik

Posted by JenStar on May 24, 2005, at 23:38:48 [reposted on May 28, 2005, at 13:21:23 | original URL]

In reply to Re: on materialism. (my own.) » ghost, posted by soulnik on May 24, 2005, at 21:50:32

Soulnik,
I know what you mean about people saying "you're pretty" but feeling inside the "but..." start up. I'm overweight myself but have a pretty face, and I always think people must be thinking "she'd be so cute if she'd only lose some weight!" Or maybe that's my own projection, b/c I DO want to lose weight...it's just so hard. And our society makes us feel like pigs if we're not model-beautiful (I know I'm the one making myself feel this way, but the Glamours and other magazines don't help much!)

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I understand how you feel, I think, and I sympathize. For what it's worth, I know some other people who are overweight and I think many of them really ARE beautiful. I don't look at them and think, "Oh, she'd be OK if she'd just lose some weight," I think "she's my friend and she's lovely." Maybe inside they're insecure about it, but for me, I just think they're great the way they are.

So probably people think this about us, too!

I know meeting potential dates is hard. Have you tried dating services at all?

I hope you're well. Take care of yourself!
JenStar


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